What Forgiveness Is NOT About

  • Forgetting (having no memory of) the offense.
  • Not feeling any pain due to the offense.
  • Denying character defects of the offender.
  • Being able to trust the offender as if no offense had ever occurred.
  • Being able to be intimate and friendly with the offender instantly, as if no offense had ever occurred.
  • Acting as if one has not been changed as the result of the offense.
  • Condoning / approving of / not minding the offense.
  • Believing or acting as if there are or there should be no consequences to the offense.
  • Believing or acting as if we have no boundaries or rights around the offender.

Copyright Caterina G.S. James, 1997

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